so we got engaged just after 7 months of relationship, then we decided to have a baby, got pregnant after another 3 months, then got married when I was 5-6 months pregnant. And when the baby was born, my husband changed completely wrong way, he got a new better job as well, he always was different than other guys, he stopped giving me attention, no cuddles, basically no kisses, I usually have to ask for one, no romance anymore at all, he has anger issues, he makes me upset a lot. he wants me to do all the job with our boy. I know he loves me, I love him, but there is no sparks in our marriage... and there is one guy we are friends with.. please don't judge me, i can't control my feelings, but damn I fucking adore him, he shows a lot of (friendly) attention, he's caring, funny, always here for me. and I'm falling for him, I don't want to, but I can't... nothing happened between us, but I can't stop flirting with him, but I would never cheat on him... have you even been in that kind of marriage? did he change or did you get divorce??

update: and after all, he spends 10% with his child... today I did absolutely everything, I changed our son's nappies, fed him, put him to bed and when I asked him to change baby's nappy, he said it was fine, doesn't need to change, but the nappy was completely full, I waited for 10 minutes, he didn't do anything, got angry and did it myself, again...