Best friend

Soooo a few months ago I did something really stupid...

I was talking to this guy (let’s call him Travis) at work and had a fling with him before I cut it off. We made out a few times, talked about having sex, but I cut it off before anything happened. he had such a huge crush on me but my sixth sense told me to stay away from him, so I followed my gut.

But a few weeks after that my best friend (let’s call her Sara) was complaining about not having any guys in her life and had been telling me about her kinks, and I was like hmmm wow that sounds exactly like Travis...

Travis had still been messaging me every day at this point so I messaged him and told him Sara’s kinks reminded me of him and I was thinking about giving her his information, you know, to get him off my back.

Well, they ended up talking, meeting up, and fucking and things got serious from there. After a week they already made it official, their honeymoon phase was full of sex and each other 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Well... when it came time to get friends and family involved things started to go south, I was completely fine with him I even still talked to him about normal things friends would talk about and he didn’t seemed bothered at all, besides the fact that I was trying to get with HIS best friend but that’s another story haha.

But me and Sarah have a pretty big group of friends and we all share very wild personalities, we like to get out and have fun, but Travis really isn’t into that at all. His group of friends are wild too, but in a completely different way. Me and Sarah’s group seem to be a bit more overwhelming and free while Travis’ group seems to be a bit more depressed and secluded.

So Sarah has been going to his parties and hangouts and met all his friends and family already, but he had no desire to meet her friends at all. She would invite him with us and he would always seem to be busy, so she took a step back and asked if I could come to his parties and hangouts because, I’m her best friend...

But of course he said no because he already told his parents about me trying to get with his best friend and he didn’t want me meeting them or being around his best friend because he thought I would hop on his dick or something. So that made me feel like complete shit because I’m not that type of person. So I would just end up driving her to his house all the time, uninvited and having to leave and find something else to do.

I ended up meeting with them over lunch so we could talk about the situation and he told me that he didn’t want to be friends with me at all... which didn’t make sense because we’ve been talking normally at work and over text for a while now and all of a sudden he feels like I turned him down and honestly I got vibes that he still had feelings for me and maybe being friends with me would keep him and Sara from furthering their relationship.

After that he’s just been such a bad influence in her life, she’s not making money because she calls out of work AND SCHOOL almost every day just to be with him, she spends all her time with him and who knows what he’s saying to her but she’s practically disowned all her friends already, including me. He’s secluding her, and it’s scaring me because I know she really likes him, and she won’t be the one to leave.

Today she texted me and asked me if she was a bad girlfriend for not wanting to go down on him, and doing it anyway. Then proceeded to tell me that he got mad at her when she told him to stop pushing her head down. And that he got mad at her before for not playing with his balls.

He’s controlling and I can see it and she can’t, I feel like this is going to turn into an abusive relationship soon and it’s my fault. I wanted him off my back and I put him on her back not knowing how weak she really was to this sort of thing. I don’t know why I thought he would be good for her when I’m the one who had a bad feeling about him in the first place

Is there any advice of what to tell her? Or how to convince her to get the hell out before it’s too late? Sorry it so long, it takes the whole story to really understand the situation.