Let’s start the story back when we got engaged. Told both sides of the family that wanted to throw me a bridal showers ask what I wanted out of the experience (low key, no corny games, just celebrating and visiting friends and family). Husband’s side listened, my mother didn’t. Plus I did a lot of work getting the shower together (instead of just being able to enjoy the day).

Bachelorette party, same story. Wanted something low key, no penis parade which is exactly the opposite of what I got.

Here we are pregnant, and people again want to throw showers. I’m so tired of being stressed that I don’t want to mess with a shower at this point. There’s been so much stress in the family lately (I had trouble getting pregnant, my dad has cancer) that I just don’t want anymore unnecessary drama. My mom already has dozens of Pinterest ideas that are over the top, again, IF I did have a shower, opposite of what I want at this point.

People have said I’m being selfish and that my mom should be able to celebrate too (her first grand baby), but am I being a total brat in just not wanting one at all? Not really sure if this was just a rant or actually needing advice, but I feel better getting it off my chest 🙂