This weekend was my baby shower and course moments before we were leaving for it my MIL started a huge fight.

Her words “I was raised in a family with manners and I’m starting to feel like you don’t know what means!”

*cue a lot of anger*

All because she decided she wanted her friends to send baby gifts and was mad I declined wanting her to take pics of us opening them. I said I’d happily send a thank you card.

Then the baby shower I didn’t speak to her the whole time. Still had a good shower. She acted like she did nothing wrong.

Later that night my husband myself and her had a “talk”. Since he felt like he was the middle man and didn’t think it was fair to take someone’s side. It started out horrendous of yelling and her telling me “you’re immature and if you could just shut your mouth and let me finish speaking”

She went on a whole rant about “your husband is my son and when you married him you married his family, including all my close friends” - she said that because I had mentioned earlier I feel disrespected that she told everyone we didn’t know we are pregnant and giving them personal information about my pregnancy. So this was her way of saying she can do want she wants. She also had the audacity to say “this is MY grand baby”.. ...

Then she went on to say “this is going to sound snobby of me but you have no etiquette because I was raised in a very high class wealthy family and you were not”. This was when she was on a tangent about how I never make her or his dad feel “welcome at our house”. Her words: “you tell us to just help ourselves to food in the fridge” “you don’t put out our towels or make our bed” — I told her HOLD UP. I said you called and told my husband you were bringing your own sheets and pillows because you hated ours, so there wasn’t any way for me to make the bed. Second, the bathroom by the guest bedroom isn’t finished yet and you’ve been to our house a million times so you know where the towels are and can help yourself. We’ve told you a thousand times. She then said “well I wish you’d tell us that each time so we know you are being welcoming”

So here I am getting yelled at because apparently this “etiquette” is my responsibility but her son, my husband, had no idea this expectation either. Oh why? Because he wasn’t RAISED THAT WAY.

This reaffirms my reasoning for not wanting them to stay at our house after our baby is born. When they visit I definitely will not have good ettiequte and want to host them and make sure they feel “welcome”.

I told her I felt she was being really selfish and this is my pregnancy. She said she thinks I’m immature and selfish because I wouldn’t do what she said and in “good etiquette” I should do whatever she says.

We hugged at the end and I bit my tongue and acted like we could move on and we hashed shit out, but I really do not like her. And this was all for my husbands sake.