Petrified of c-section

Ma

So this will be my second pregnancy and my first pregnancy I was high risk and hemorrhaged while I was delivering and teared really bad so they suggested this time around for my safety I get a C-section and I’m petrified by the idea of being cut open and I’m worried about feeling the whole thing because I don’t numb wellIt took eight sticks to get my epidural last time and it was excruciatingly painful so I’m nervous about having to get a spinal block Also how am I going to be able to take care of my toddler if I can’t lift heavy things afterwards and I won’t have much help when my husband goes back to work just a lot of things that are scary please help me ease my mind