Infant at Wedding?

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We just received an invitation to husband’s cousin’s June wedding addressed to “Mr. and Mrs. ___”. I’m not sure if that includes 👶🏽 or not. I know etiquette says whoever’s on the envelope is who’s invited, but I also realize it might be difficult and/or odd to address something to someone that isn’t here yet 🤷🏾‍♀️
👶🏽 will be ~2 months and I plan on exclusively breastfeeding. The wedding is a couple states away, so I can’t just pump and leave the baby with my mom for a few hours. My inlaws told me I should just assume I can bring 👶🏽 (without asking first), but I know that some brides have *very* strong opinions about this (and also that seems kind of rude?). They also suggest that if I’m worried, I can just bring my mom to stay in the hotel and watch the kid. Not happening.
What do I do? Contact the cousin to ask? I really don’t want to seem entitled or make her feel pressured. If she wants a kid-free wedding, that’s her prerogative. Or should I just consider invitation etiquette and assume my kid is not part of the deal?

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I would probably ask. when I got married I really didn't want children/babies at the wedding and specifically left them off the invitations, I also wrote "respectfully an adult occasion" at the bottom of the invites just in case .

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Always ask and don't put them on the spot.  Let them know that you're realize they may not want baby there but that you are still nursing. But don't assume!

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The safest way to know is to ask. But no one can expect someone with a young infant to travel to an out of state wedding without their baby. Like you said, it’s not an afternoon thing- it’s a trip. So i would either just go ahead and bring the baby, but if you have any doubts i would ask.

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The baby is probably not invited (invitation would usually be addressed to Mr and Mrs (name) and family). No harm in asking, as long as you accept whatever the answer is!

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I would definitely ask. Our wedding invites did not include children, but one of our family friends asked if she could bring her 4yo and infant to the reception. I had no problem saying yes to her and she was so relieved to have her babies come along - her little girl even said that it was better than Disney 😂

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I’m in the same situation- invited to the wedding of a close family friend in June. I have a 2.5 year old and will have a 6ish week old. I just asked if it was ok- (though they did list my older daughter on the invitation) and was told “of course bring her!” So I am. My whole family will be at the wedding to help, so maybe slightly different, but I think it’s always fair to ask without any pressure.

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I would assume baby isn’t invited. If it was my wedding I wouldn’t really want babies there! 
Only because they are so unpredictable especially at 2 months! 
I think asking is still kind of awkward like even if they don’t want the baby there they might just give in and say yes so they don’t seem rude!

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I feel that if I’m gonna have a 2 month old anyone who invites me to anything should just expect that the baby comes along! I’m not big on babysitters! And especially not if the wedding is a couple states away! How could anyone expect you to leave a two month old?

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I would ask, I didn’t have children at my wedding  especially in the day. However I wouldn’t mind a baby being there during the evening reception

Infant at Wedding?

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