My sister is in Oct and my best friend is December. But the problem is, my friends sisters are planning all her activities and they are doing it like way too early and it’s conflicting with ny sisters things which are right on schedule.

Plus in a chef and getting off weekend days is close to impossible. Let alone multiple days.

First thing to come up is my sisters shower is sun sept 9 and I told them that weekend is blacked out for me while my friends sisters were planning, and they just tell us today they booked it for sat the 8. I’m like no way I can get off sat and Sunday in a row, also 3 months is too early for a bridal shower. They’re usually the month before.

Also friends sisters aren’t married but are older and opinionated, I’m married already so I know how things go.

Her sisters are trying to plan like a trip to Florida ( we live in Nj) for bachelorette, which has never even been my thing. I didn’t have one at all. But I can’t get off that many days of work.

Also I don’t have a job that gives vacation time so I’d lose money each day I take off and I can’t afford that.

They are possibly going to do an additional one night at the nearby casinos. But still that’s another day to take off. Not including be actual weddings...

I’m just overwhelmed. And my friend keep changing her mind about our dresses. Originally she gave us colors and said find whatever we want and be mismatched which was awesome! I’m an awesome

Bargain shopper. But now she’s looking at David’s bridal ones that are like $200.

Plus it’s different colors than my sister so that’s two dresses to buy.

I can’t not be in either one of their weddings, but I feel like the Debbie downer in the group chat contradicting the plans.

Luckily my sister is younger and her friends are young And broke soon to be college grads so her activities will be low key and not expensive.

Also, my friend is laid back! She’s not the problem, since she can’t plan her own activities. And also she knows my work schedule and understands. It’s her sisters “maids of honor” killing me.

Thanks for reading my rant, wish my luck and give advice!