HELP: Friend is Pregnant

Hello eve Community,

I’d like some friendly advice!

So, a very good friend of mine recently got pregnant and I’m not sure how to respond. She told me it wasn’t planned but she and her boyfriend are happy. Outwardly, I am supportive and in most ways, I truly am excited for her. Babies are adorable and I will smother this child with love and Star Wars things. However, deep down, something feels amiss.

For some background, this was my “party all day” friend in college- so I understand seeing that friend transform from crazy lady to mother is something I’ll need to get use to. But more than that, I don’t like her boyfriend 100% from the limited interaction I’ve had with him. I worry the relationship isn’t as “good” as she makes it out to be. I’ve seen a semi-controlling side of the boyfriend that made me (and several other friends) uncomfortable. However, we don’t know him well, we barely see each other and I wonder if I overreacted. My pregnant friend is a strong willed woman, a little cynical but emotional (once you break that wall down). She’s got amazing parents and siblings. She comes from a good home.

Now, while I am excited for her and I will do whatever I can to support her (she seems to intend on keeping the pregnancy), I’m afraid that if I come off too positively that, if she changes her mind, I’ll be that irritating friend.

This is my first really good friend to get pregnant unintentionally. I don’t know what to do or how to respond. I’m excited/worried but I don’t know if I should be.

Please help!