Friends Not Sticking Up For Me

This is a long one, but I would appreciate if you read it!

About 2 months ago me and one of my friends got in a fight because he was a self centered, shit talking person. I addressed my issues with him and he completely denied absolutely everything. Even though there is proof of him saying my other friends use him for money, are rude and fake, and calling my boyfriend a no good hick.

So, I cut him off. I didn’t need his negativity in my life and I chose not to be his friend. It was a really hard 3 weeks for me (and he actually ended up ruining my birthday. He told my friends to get in an Uber and that they would meet me at the train station so we could all go to the club together, but then he got them to all go on the train without me. On MY birthday).

But about a month ago he was in my room (I’m a freshman in college) and my roommates were getting fed up with him. So they asked me if I could ask him to leave since he already doesn’t like me and I was studying for a cardio test that I had the next day. So I asked everyone that didn’t live in my room to please get out and respect that I needed to study.

This guy (also, why does a GUY cause more drama than all my girl friends?) had the audacity to tell me roommate that I am a “psycho c**t” and then to take a picture of me through a mirror and write “c*nt” on my face and send it to multiple people. I don’t deserve to be called that for asking someone to get out of my room. No one should be called that in my opinion.

So eventually, my friends saw how rude he was and how he was talking shit about everyone and we ended up cutting him off mostly. They still talk to him occasionally, but nothing more than “hey what’s the homework for blah blah blah”.

But tonight we were at the dining hall, and he came and sat with us. I got furious. He’s not my friend and he was extremely disrespectful to me and to my other friends to. It really bothered me that they were all joking around with him and enjoying spending time with him while I was EXTREMELY uncomfortable. So I rushed my food down and then excused myself saying I had to go study for my chem test.

Is it right of me to be upset with my friends? They had promised me that next year he’s not allowed into our suite, and I’m nervous that’s going to change. Whenever I hear this persons voice I want to punch someone, or scoop my own eyeballs out with a spoon. He drives me insane and I feel like my real friends should respect that because of all the history. I’m just really fed up right now and wish I was at home with my mom and dog but unfortunately I’m not. So I’m coming to you ladies to get some support and advice.

Thank you