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A lot of people I know who have had to break the news to young children have found using books helpful, the one below I know was recommended to me (it’s from a UK charity so not sure if it can be purchased internationally). Make sure you include them in things, like if you celebrate your angel’s birthday, maybe let them blow out or help light a candle as they get older and tell them what it is for.Depending on whether you are religious, that can help people explain, telling them that their sibling is now in heaven etc. Personally I am not religious but I know a lot of people can take comfort from knowing their baby is watching over them.I’ve not had to do this yet personally but I have a 2 year old niece and 6 month old niece and I know that one day I will want to tell them about the cousin they never knew.
advice *trigger warning: living children*
I want to ask in this group because you ladies and gents understand what it's like to lose a child and possibly have had the unfortunate and terrible task of explaining to your living child/children
so my bf and I lost our son after giving birth at 27 weeks due to me developing HELLP Syndrome.
now his ex/ two living sons' mother is back in his inbox asking for co-parenting after completly ignoring and blocking him on everything. yes I am angry over all that but that's for another post to vent...
She wants to finally give co-parenting a chance and work it out. which I am completely over the moon about. sucky timing but still happy all the same.
My boyfriend and I were talking the other night over how exactly we'd want to let the boys know about their baby brother. they're 2 and 1 so it won't really come up for a little bit.
how would you handle this kind of situation? any advice or tips would be appreciated.
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Just curious: why do they have to know about it? What purpose does that serve?
Br
That makes sense. Good luck to you and I’m sorry for your loss! It’s always terrible to lose a baby.
Al
im not worried about making it known to them now. maybe not even in 5 years. i just dont want it to come as a surprise or shock to them when theyre teenagers or something.
Br
But anyways, I would just have a picture out of ultrasounds (if you’re okay with doing that, everyone is different) and every time they ask just tell them who it is.
I personally don’t have experience with this but you could say that they have a baby brother but he’s an angel and gets to live in heaven. My mum had my sister (still birth) when I was about 6 and that’s how it was always explained to me there was a self with her picture and bits and bobs 😊 I never leave her out if I get asked about my siblings now
Al
thank you. its really helped me a lot to talk about it. im sorry to hear of your loss as well. ❤️
Am
I’m glad I could help 😊 also I’m sorry for your loss hun, I lost my first daughter at 24 weeks and it’s better for the grieving if you speak about them 💕
Al
sibling and can speak from your experience* i wish there was an edit button for comments :p but thank you all the same 💙💙
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