First sex (failure) story😂

Heyy so I'm just saying this so that you guys can help me out with the problem! So last night I went to my BF's place to spend the night and we have been talking about having sex for a while ( I'm virgin he isn't) so he had everything so beautifuly planned , candles at the bedroom , flowers , music and everything that could make your first great. So we start making out and we get wet and he puts on his condom but then when its time we had trouble finding the hole!😂 I was scared and kept pressuring my legs against him and he couldn't find the hole and all this took a while and then he suddenly said he caint feel his dick! 😂😂 so the condom was 2in1 for delay And his dick got numb once he got the condom out! So we had to spend another half -an hour to try to get him feel his dick again😂 but this went on and on he washed it several times but it didn't work! So we decided to sleep and do it today . So today after we woke up ( he was feeling the dick again thank god!) we decided to give it another try . He wore different condoms and everything seemed fine but again we had a little trouble finding the hole because I also kept missleading him😂 and once he tried I was in pain so I stardrd crying! He came beside me and huged me and we talked for a while and then we went again. So this time he fingered me and then said look it's fine my finger went in so It's not a dead end there don't be scared😂 so this situation and struggle went on and on and then we decided maybe today is not our day! I was in real pain and he was getting tired from getting his dick hard and then on and on. So afterwards I went to the bathroom and starded crying because I couldn't see what was wrong! We had planned this for a while and this was a dissapointment . He came in the bathroom and huged me real hard and talked me into it that this was okey and it's normal because it's my first and that some other time we'll do it right. So is this really normal you guys? I was wet and we even used lubricants so I don't know what else to do .