I’m too old for this shit but need advice!

So there’s this guy.

We did a show together, which means we basically spent every single day for three months together laughing, talking, getting to know each other, making out on stage.

The show ended, but our contact continued. Texting each other constantly, making plans to hang out. Eventually the onstage physical stuff turned into real life physical stuff.

Which was really. Good.

Part of what made it good was how long we had been talking and getting to know each other, we also both spoke about how we hadn’t been with very many people sexually, and how we both felt that sincere feelings were important aspects to sexual activity. This dude is a sweet nerd, and is most definitely not a user or player. He had slept with one other person in his whole life.

My main issue now is that I’m having a really hard time figuring out what is going on, and how he actually feels. We will go from having an amazing time together, good conversation, him telling me I’m beautiful, telling me he’ll miss me (this is an important aspect of the story: I’m going out of town for theatrical tour for several months) to , on the other hand more recently I find that he will say snarky things in a joking way via text, constant sarcasm, with very little sincerity.

He always, always responds to my texts with in one minute, but at this point rarely initiates. He seems to be putting walls up. And I can’t figure out if it’s because he has just gotten bored of me, or if because he is doing it on purpose because I’m leaving.

About a month ago I felt pretty confident in his attraction for me, but now I feel like things have changed drastically. He hasn’t ghosted me, he doesn’t ignore me, but I’m just having trouble figuring out if he actually likes me or not.

An example of this is he’ll joke about all the women he has waiting around for him, and how I’m not even out of town yet, but he is already moving on.

Even with my experience in relationships, I can’t tell if he saying these things to put up a wall and to make me jealous, or if he’s trying to give me a hint. It really bothers me that recently he hasn’t initiated contact or texting on his own.