Obese and pregnant

So I’m struggling....I’m considered obese, even though I never saw myself as being so. Before I got pregnant I wanted to start losing weight to feel better about myself. Then I got pregnant...obviously that plan was gone. I noticed myself starting to becomes unhappy with myself before and now that I’m pregnant I’m finding myself down a lot about my body. I’m noticing weight gain in areas I was already self conscious about. Right now in my pregnancy I’m not really to the point to here I’m showing all that much but have gained some weight...so if you didn’t know you would think I’m just fat....and often feel just fat not pregnant. I’m struggling with all this extra weight gain. I also hate the fact that summer is coming and i hate my legs and arms...I have been trying to tone them but it’s hard. I will do it for like 1-3 days and then nothing for a week...that won’t get me results. Oh and I’m also stressing about gaining to much weight while pregnant since I’m already considered obese my doctor doesn’t want me gaining a crazy amount...in fact if your overweight the less weight you need to gain while pregnant. Some days I don’t feel like I have gained much and then others I feel like I have gained a lot. Does anyone else struggle in this area?