Terrible Twos

I'm convinced we've hit the terrible twos early. My sweet, fun, smiley daughter has turned into a god damned nightmare. It's like she hit 18 months and flipped a switch. She's winey and pissy and when she doesn't get her way she screams and Cruz and throws herself and her toys around. To top it off I had a long day at work and all I want is to come home and give her a hug and read a book and put her to bed. But no, she refused, like usual, to eat. She finds a cup shoved behind something on the shelf (lord knows for how long) and proceeds to scream bloody murder when my husband snatches it away. So I try to console her, give her tonight cup of milk and she continues to cry and throw things. I tell her to stop and she screams louder. I just couldn't take it anymore. I picked her up, sat her in her rocker, left and closed the door. I come back a minute later pick her up and she starts hitting me in the face screaming down! Down! So I drop her down onto the floor and continue about my business as she follows me around crying and screaming. Of course her father calms her down because she loves him best and he's a saint. He gets her ready for bed while I clean up her mess and when I come in to say good night she won't hug me, kiss me or tell me goodnight, but kissed her father and buried her face in his chest. I just walked out and laid down in bed and cried. I really try so hard to be a good mom and I will admit it's hard because I have a short fuse, but I just feel like a failure. My kid hates me most days, and my husband, who has always been amazing, doesn't understand my frustration with things and has started to say some hurtful things on occasion, or be passive aggressive. Not to mention I have no friends. I feel completely alone and unwanted. I almost walked out the door. I don't know where I would have gone but I just wanted to leave. I honestly just think they'd all be better off if I didn't exist. My daughter probably wouldn't even notice. I'm a horrible mother and a horrible person. It can't just be me right? I just feel like this faze is going to be the end of me.