He wants a baby, I don't who should compromise?

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I'm 23, in law school, and very career driven. I never wanted children. I've been saying it since I was a child myself. In addition to the stress and strain associated with parenthood, I also have hip dysplasia which will eventually require me to get a hip replacement. I know that during pregnancy women's hips spread and hurt and I already suffer from hip pains so the discomfort would be unimaginable. 
Our relationship is pretty new, but he's 26 going on 27 and really looking to settle down. And we've got such a beautiful love story. ❤️ I'm really falling for this man and he constantly mentions his plans for our future. In doing so he acknowledges that I SAY I don't want kids but still seems to hold out hope. I REALLY don't want kids, guys. He could marry me, be the love of my life and I still won't want to have his children. Should I compromise? Does anyone have experience having arthritis during pregnancy ? Should I just let this relationship go? Because it's not fair to him if he really wants to have a baby.

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Let it go. If he wants kids and you don't that's not fair for both of you. Resentment might grow between you guys if you don't give him a child. I know if my husband had said when we were dating that he didn't want kids I would have cut it off because I always wanted a child. Some people don't and that's completely fine!

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I'm also a woman that doesn't want kids. And I can tell you, please don't date a man who does. One of you will end up very unhappy. End it before there's an accident or a poked hole in a condom.

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I don’t think a child is something you compromise on, a child should be brought into the world to people who want it, not people who gave in to make someone else happy

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Stick to what you want - you shouldn’t have to change what you want out of life for anyone. Also, I went to law school and worked at a law firm for a while (before moving to a career I liked a lot more), and I can say that it’s not easy for people starting out in that kind of work environment, especially if they have family commitments.

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He should not compromise and nor should you. He can find a woman who wants to have a family and you can find a man who is just as career-driven as you, who does not want kids. You both are likely to grow to resent one another if you don’t end it now.

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Find a middle ground, compromise or leave

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Let him go. Not worth the relationship or falling in love

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a child is not a compromise to be made. one of your will be unhappy one way or the other
parenthood has to be 100% yes and enthusiastic on both sides. not one 100% and one saying yes on behalf of the other person.
I don't know anything about how your hip displasia would be affect or affect the pregnancy and labour
but it also doesn't matter.
he is older. wanting to finally settle down and create a family with someone he loves
and while he may want that someone to be you, and you may want to be with him as well, you cannot give up such a for strong conviction for yourself.
the choice is ultimately yours girl, but you need to think long and hard about whether this compromise you would end up making would cost you your own happiness.
you could love the child but would you resent otherhood? resent your man for making you decide this? would you resent yourself for giving in when you didn't want to? these are thinns you need to answer before you make a choice.

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I think it’s important when you are in a long-term relationship that both parties in it are on the same page as far as having children. If you both want different things, it’s going to be a difficult road for the two of you. There will most likely be resentment because your partner is already not accepting your decision. Resentment is a relationship killer.

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I have rheumatoid arthritis and am currently 25 weeks with number 1. I was  diagnosed at 3 years old and have been pretty mild for the last few years. I've had no issues during pregnancy but know a flare is common postpartum.

He wants a baby, I don't who should compromise?

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