My boyfriend reduced me to sex

My boyfriend of 5 years and my literal soulmate/best friend just said something I never thought he would/could.

I was asking him to be careful with his money because I felt like he was spending a little recklessly now that he has this hotshot job that pays him 4x what his old job did, which is great but he needs to be a little more responsible. Maybe I said it wrong (it’s what he said he felt) but he got really extremely defensive and told me he shouldn’t have come to where I live (he lives 3 hours away) on his day off because he didn’t get to have sex and that’s all I’m worth. And I told him he hurt me with that and I didn’t want to continue this conversation so he apologized and said he wanted to hurt me and that it was childish of him to do so but he felt like I had hurt him and so...

I don’t know why he got so aggressive about his money, he took it to extremes and made assumptions about what I thought of his job, even tough I didn’t say anything... but it’s extremely hurtful. He won’t stop calling, I logged off all my apps to ignore him.

What do I do?

Update: we came to my house, we cried, he cried, turns out I told him something that was also hurtful and he apologized for being childish and seeking “revenge”, said he needs to grow out of those ways and we had a really long talk and hugged for about 30 minutes and then had the best sex ever.