Anybody else's mom beyond crazy??

Has anybody else's mom had a super negative reaction to your first pregnancy??

Little back story: I immigrated to Canada with my immediate family only so the only family I have in this country is my mom, dad and brother. Having their support as they're my only family here besides my fiancée's was very important to me and now it seems like it's just not happening.

I announced the pregnancy on my birthday to my family because I figured they can't be mad at me on my bday. My fiancee and I came over for dinner and surprised them with a custom made wine bottle label:

My mom pulled the bottle out of the wine bottle sleeve and the smile wiped right off her face. She read it and then starred at me and just said "Oh. Are you serious...? Like really? uh ok." and my dad just shrugged his shoulders at my mom and set back on the couch... yikes.

I literally just wanted to tell my fiancée to start the car cause their reaction was TERRIBLE. Like thank God I didn't video tape it... the rest of the evening was super awkward and they sort of came around towards the end of it which really just involved my mom trying to tell me how it's gonna go...

She told me "Well you're best off having a C section. That's your safest and easiest bet. Also, don't bother breastfeeding just bottle feed you'll thank me later. Uhhh and all of those things are the complete opposite of what I've been trying to aim for...

Anyway as time went on I hoped to see improvement and chalked up my mom's reaction to initial shock and what not... I announced my pregnancy publicly and then my mom told me she was excited to post a picture of our baby reveal wine bottle! I was all like

aaand she proceeded to post this:

... she blurred out my fiancée's last name with an emoji so it looks more like theirs.... Like wtf...

Anyway... I let that go since she at least somewhat tried to me excited I guess. Flash forward to me finally getting to tell my Oma & Opa in Germany about the baby news as their baby announcement package finally arrived in the mail: They were so excited and happy for me.

I asked my Oma if she would mind sending this huge wooden crib that my mom had stored in her basement up to Canada as my mom seemed very adamant to have it since she used it for both my brother and I when we were babies... And my Oma informed me that they unfortunately don't have it anymore and that it became moldy and they had to throw it out... yikes.

So I break the news to my mom anticipating some level of being upset about this and sh*t hit the fan guys.

My mom started SCREAMING into the phone (at me) in regards to WHAT DO YOU MEAN THEY DON'T HAVE IT ANYMORE WHO DID THEY GIVE IT TO?! WHAT?! HOW DARE THEY THROW IT OUT WITHOUT TELLING ME?! NOO!! aaand she started bawling and hung up on me.

So since then my mom refuses to talk to my grandparents AT ALL. I honestly understand that she's upset but at this point she is being really selfish about the whole situation... And I'm in the middle of it.

So as of now, I'm currently trying to plan my gender reveal party! Surprise surprise as soon as I began telling my mom about the gender reveal and what I wanted to do for it she instantly hated the idea and proceeded to tell me what a dumb idea it is.

She goes on to tell me that nobody does gender reveals and that it's just too extra and how it's a waste of time and money... she got mad at me and told me it's nobody's business what gender my baby is and it's really weird for me to share something so private like it's a reason to celebrate. She said the plain fact that I wanted to know the gender before the baby was born is already extra enough.

So. This whole situation reminded me of the time I BEGGED them for weeks to attend my highschool graduation and my mom really didn't want to cause it's "Not really an accomplishment and not worth celebrating" and how I ended up bawling the whole drive home from grad since my mom ended up flipping out at me after the ceremony for making her go to it... So when she gave me this much trouble over the gender reveal I decided to give her the option to not go to it if she didn't want to in order to avoid any drama in front of all my friends and my fiancée's family... And of course she said no and that she does not want to attend and that she would rather watch the video stream that I'm hosting for my grandparents instead...

okay. cool. It also sucked extra cause it seemed like my dad was genuinely interested in attending and now he obviously can't cause my mom can't stand to look bad. So I asked if I could at least pick up my little brother to attend and set off one of the confetti cannons for me... aaand she said no and just said "That would be pretty weird don't you think if your brother is there all alone..? So no." So I literally won't have a single shred of my own family there at the gender reveal because none of them care enough to support me in this...

All in all I'm just completely depleted with energy to deal with my mom at this point cause all she has done is stress me out during thus pregnancy and I am so over it. I had imagined my first pregnancy uniting me with my mom and having her to support me through this journey but I guess not. At this point I don't even wanna bring it up to her anymore cause I know she will just turn it around on me and start a huge feud. I'm just grateful for all the incredible support I've received from my fiancée, his family and my friends because otherwise I'd be a complete mess. Moving forward I don't know what I'm gonna do with my mom. I can't have her running the show like this once my baby arrives. I need her to understand boundaries but I don't wanna have to cut the cord to the only family I have in this country...