Need some advice here...

About a year ago my husband and I had decided we were going to start “passively” trying to have a baby. We would do that for a few months, I would figure out my cycle and we would then more actively start trying.

A few months in we got to talking and started thinking about WHY we were trying at that point and decided that we had both just assumed it was the next step (had been married over a year, bought a house, steady jobs, etc). So we talked about what life would be like without kids, more freedom, vacations, etc. we both love kids and have always wanted them but wanted to make sure we were making the right choice for us at the time.

It was then that we decided to stop passively trying.

Fast forward a year and it makes me sad when I think about my life with no kids (I am 30, he is 37). We aren’t old, but we aren’t super young either.

What do I do? How do I talk to my husband about this? When I have brought it up before he says that he thought we had decided that we didn’t want kids. I had decided I didn’t want them at that exact moment. I didn’t mean forever.

Has anyone gone through anything similar?

Sorry for the long post.