What the hell should I do?? Pls help 😫

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So I'm hoping you ladies can give me your opinion/advice on a problem I'm having. Apologies in advance for the long post. 
My mother passed away about 2 years ago, and she left me and my older sister her house. My sister still lives in the house, but I do not. I've been living with my husband since before we got married (about 4 years now), but have been paying  for half of the bills for the house all this time. It adds up to $1300 a month. 
My husband and I don't make a lot of money, but we both work full time. I'm now 10 weeks pregnant with our first child, and we are unbelievably excited. This is something we have wanted for a long time.
My sister is 35 years old but hasn't gotten a full time job, even though she has a master's degree. She can't support the house herself. But I can no longer afford to pay half the bills for what is essentially her home while I prepare to have my baby. She refuses to sell the house or to get a roommate. When I talked to my aunt about the situation, she was 100% on my sister's side and thought that I was being selfish in wanting to sell the house, and suggested that we shouldn't have planned to have a baby if we couldn't afford to still pay for the house. She said that my sister is my family and needs to be supported just like my husband and child.
What do you ladies think? Are my aunt and sister right? Am I being selfish or unreasonable? Or are they being manipulative? I talked to my therapist, a lawyer, and friends about this, and they all think my family is being crazy, but I'm wondering what you all think.

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I'm with you. That's insane that you're paying for your sister to live in the house.

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Your sister is a grown woman and needs to take responsibility for herself. She 35 and a college graduate, theres no excuse for why she hasn't either gotten a job or put herself in a home she can afford on her own. You gotta pull the plug on that. If you dont want the house then offer to let her buy out your half or just sign your half over to her for free if you dont care. Your baby comes before your perfectly abled grown sister.

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Either sell the house and split the profit or she pays for the upkeep alone period

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Wtf! Its not your responsibility to take care of an adult. Sell the house or tell her to buy you out. There is no reason you should be paying if you aren't living there. Sorry your family is being ridiculous.

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Your family is crazy to think you should pay for a house you don't live in regardless of a baby

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Holy shit! That is ridiculous that you are paying for half a house you don't live in! You can't hold off ur life because your sister refuses to grow up!!

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Your sister is a big girl. She can suck it up and stop living off of you. You need to focus on yourself and your growing family. You aren’t being selfish- I think you’re quite the opposite. Good luck dear

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I think it’s absolutely crazy that you’ve continued to pay half of the bills just bc your mom left you the house. If she’s living there she can pay it all herself or you both can sell or rent the property out

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They are crazy for thinking that you should be paying for a house that you don’t live in. There are a few choices here, she can find a room mate to help cover costs, she can move out and y’all can sell the house, you can give her (donate) your portion of the house so it would be her problem, or you and hubby (baby) can move in to the place that you’ve been maintaining since you inherited it. I work for an attorney and we deal with successions, this is a common issue but most of the time the house is sold, donated or the other heirs are bought out. I’ve been there 8 years and I’ve never seen them all paying for a house they don’t live in.

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you have a responsibility to your baby you know the innocent child like a real child that actually needs you. not your grown 35 year old sister. if she cannot afford the home SHE is living in maybe she should idk get a roommate or down size like an adult would figure out how to do. you've already mentioned shes educated no reason she can't figure this out. ypur baby needs you now and you don't need the stress of trying to figure out how to make your own bills let alone hers.

What the hell should I do?? Pls help 😫

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