I don’t love my child??

Question

I just had my baby 6 weeks ago and I feel no bond with her and I don’t feel like I “love” her.  Even when I was pregnant, I never really felt that love that everyone else had with their baby. I know I like my daughter but not love. And I feel like the worst piece of shit for it. Is something wrong with me?? Why don’t I have that maternal love yet? It’s so weird, when I had her I kid of just shrugged about it. In my mind I was like “Okay I had a baby, not a big deal”. Should I get professional help? Is that what they call mom blues or post partum depression ?

Answer

Maybe not think to much about What You should or not, just start to more play with her, check How to make her smile, try to hug more often. Love is not something What clik And You feel, especialy that first weeks can be hard. And i think this Love to baby It’s something diferent And New for us, so How You know You don’t feel that? Love for me is that i want wake up at night And feed him for one hour, changing nappy And laugh How big And smelly poop he did, when he Cry i don’t feel like my heart is broken like some people have, but i want to help him remove discomfort And i think this is Love. Don’t think to much, not Every Love come at first sight 🤣 but it will come just concentrate on Nice And Happy things. Life with newborn is enough challenging, don’t make it to hard overthinking😬

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This happened with my first. It was around 6 weeks right before I went back to work that it just clicked and I felt that bond with her. My son is 6 weeks old today, and of course I love him I’m just waiting for it to really click like with my daughter. It’ll happen though!

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So many people say that the bond comes after 3 months— they really are just little blobs who cry, eat, sleep and poop. We havent had lots of smiles yet so it doesnt seem as rewarding- BUT it will come around soon!!! My cousin was just saying he didnt even homd his son until after 3 months, we are all going to be great parents but we are individuals! Nothing tofeel bad about!!!

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It's an interesting topic and one of the biggest taboos surrounding motherhood. I had a slightly traumatic birth and didn't get to see my baby girl until 12 hours after birth as I was unconscious when she was born. I struggled for a long time and I mean weeks until I felt some real feelings towards her. She is now coming up to 8 weeks and I do like her a lot and miss her when I'm not around her for an hour or more. But I still sometimes wonder about the unconditional love some women describe they feel for their baby. I think often that is what new mothers are expected to say even if it is not always reality. It can take time for the feelings to grow. Play with her as much as you can and interact with her to get to know her better and the feelings will grow over time.

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Oh great comment someone told me- “Not everyone believes in love at first sight!” Im one of those people, I fall in love very cautiously and it takes time. Some girls lay eyes on a guy and say they are head over heels- I never got that, but I feel like thise are the same women who say they have this crazy love right off the bat...

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You may have post partum depression. Seek out a professional who can give you the help you need.

I don’t love my child??

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