My husband and I have been together for 14 years, married for 3. All of those years I was on birth control & I had almost no sex drive at all, but I was never concerned with it except when my husband would get frustrated by it. And when we did have sex, it was dry, and boring. I couldn’t wait for it to be over with. I stopped taking birth control a year ago, it took a few months to leave my system but since it has, I have an overwhelming need for sex. I’m ready to go, all the time. However, my husband is not. First he said it must be because he’s old, he’s THIRTY, he’s it not old! He used to be all over me, and wanting it all the time, until a few months ago. The constant rejection causes me sadness, and depression, and feelings of unhappiness. I’ve apologied 1000 times for all those years he felt this way. I really do feel terrible, I had no idea that there was more to a sex life when birth control wasn’t hindering it! But we never have sex, and if we do, its because I initiate it, I have to work hard on foreplay, and it’s only one sided, never returned. I’m getting tired of it. It doesn’t matter if I make sexual jokes, hints, or solicits. I try sexting, I walk around practically naked while getting ready for work, we cuddle, I jokingly put his hand down my shirt. Anything at this point but it doesn’t matter, and I’m so frustrated and sad. He said he is depressed and doesn’t like his life, but that it has nothing to do with me. I don’t know how to help him, but other factors bedsides the sex life, make me feel so unloved and lonely.