is it my fault he cheated?

my husband said he cheated because i never talk to him, i seem to lose interest in him, and whenever we argue i always argue back and not calm him. he also said we argue too much, but how i see it, i get in trouble a lot. i always stress him out, he wasnt happy. he feels unloved and uncared for. we would argue over the stupidest thing, like how hed put his stress and anger on me and i dont like it, so i get mad at him, making us argue. he also said she seduced him and he couldnt help it. yes, we were like roommates, its because he never wants to do anything w me. id find something for us to do, i get rejected, he prefers his phone over me. he doesnt want sex as much as i do, when we do have sex, he gets tired, loses it, gets frustrated and puts it on me. its always like this. and whenever i talk to him, he gets so annoyed, hed give me attitudes, and shout. im a distraction to his phone! he always have something against the things i say, these are all why i dont talk to him as much anymore. hes always in our room w his phone, while im w the kids. our conversation is zero, unless he have needs then hed come to me. im a sahm and i find it so unfair for him to do that to me. i feel so betrayed. i am very dependent on him, he never helps me around the house or w the kids. i camt go out, i have no one but him and the kids. i gave everything up for him, my fam, my friends, my dreams, school, my body, and myself. in the end, i get this in return 😭