When I see..rant

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When I see post of people or old classmates graduation from college it makes me feel like I’ve wasted my life. I’m only 23 but I am married with 1 baby and another on the way. I feel useless and I feel like a failure. When I graduated high school I couldn’t afford to go away to college. I was indecisive on what I wanted to do with my life and here I am. I did get my nursing assistance license but I don’t want to do that. I just feel like I’m wasted potential. I graduated high school with a 4.0 class grades never went below a 94. I should have done something more with my life. I should have went away to college. I love my husband and my babies but i regret not perusing a better education.

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ok, calm down. You're still very young and don't compare yourself to anyone else's life. Figuring out what you want to do with your life is different for everyone. I'm thirty and have had multiple careers and went to two different colleges and hated just going because that's what everyone else was doing. I had no passion in anything I was studying. Now that I've figured out what I want to do, I'm glad I didn't have to endure working in a job I hated to pay for student loans for a career I didn't want. I know people older than me who are JUST starting college or trade school.

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There's still time for you to go back to school if you really want to. Find an online program and/or do part time. Its never too late

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It’s okay to feel this way. I feel lost from time to time too. And I feel like even people that “have it all” question their choices. That’s normal. When I feel this way, I try to remind myself  that I have a free will. I have a choice. That means that if I put my mind to it, I can find the resources to help me achieve what I want. I just have to be creative, ask for support and believe in myself. 
However, I will say that it sounds like (and I might be wrong) that you’re grieving your single life where you had less responsibilities. And that’s okay. Taking care of the family can be freaking hard!! You might need to sit with this feeling for a while in order to process it. Be sad! Be angry! Those are okay! You are allowed to feel unhappy with the choices you made! No feeling lasts forever. And look at the flip side, now that you know how you feel, you can take some action towards change! I think that just being present with yourself without any judgement might help you accept where you are in life at the moment.

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You can always go when you want to. There are parents at my college and they usually have higher grades too. I had an Econ class with a student who was a mom who had a toddler. You can do part time classes,online classes whichever works best with your schedule.
But college is a tool you can use, it is an accomplishment but not having a degree doesn’t make you a failure.
And so many people end up in college just because they have no other idea what to do. Maybe this extra time can help you decide what career goals you have and which major would be better for you.

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