Am I wrong for being mad??

Question

My SO keeps saying that we’re probably not getting pregnant because I messed up my contraception so much which is not true. I was on the depo and went on the pill for 2 months then came off TTC. He says it in a Jokey way but it makes me so mad especially when I’ve explained 10x that I haven’t messed up anything !! Does anyone else thinks I’m being over the top? One of our close friends have just had a baby and it’s getting me down and he can’t see it. He’s annoying me how blind he is! He keep saying “when it happens it happens we don’t need to try when you’re ovulating it doesn’t matter when we have sex” and I’m just like arghhhh yes it does! Seriously getting on my nerves: I was convinced I was pregnant last month and was even tracking my baby’s size etc on pregnancy+ and when AF came I was gutted and kept crying and he didn’t get it at all and I just feel like I can’t speak to him about it because “I’m getting my hopes up”
Anyone else feel the same??? Am I unreasonable????

Answer

Some men have the emotional range of a teaspoon 🤦🏽‍♀️. I definitely understand how you feel especially when he says it's bc you messed up your contraception. It would hurt to feel like he is blaming you when you can't conceive. For the rest of it- i find that sometimes your SO will try to be overly calm and laid back because they think it will calm you down. However, them not seeming to worry about a single thing upsets us even more! I'm sure he has realised your upset but it's possible he doesn't t completely understand why. It can be so upsetting when you think you are pregnant but turn out not to be. I'm sure he was a bit sad too but was probably trying to stay strong for you. My suggestion is just having a talk with him and letting him know how you feel so he can support you in a way that is helpful.

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Sometimes guys just don’t get these things. Guys generally want to have sex so you probably don’t need to tell him that it’s time to do it because you’re ovulating. That can put guys off and make them feel pressured. 
I do think you’re putting too much pressure on yourself though, by convincing yourself you’re pregnant and tracking your pregnancy before you even know you’re pregnant. I know how hard it is TTC - there were months when I thought I was pregnant too, but it just makes things harder when you’re sure it’s your month and then find out you’re not pregnant.

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I get like this as well, my husband often brushes it off he doesnt show his emotions to me when it comes to not conceiving because he doesnt want to upset me moreso. he finally let it go one night and it made me fall in love with him again. I have felt like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders just simply knowing that it isnt just my burden.

Am I wrong for being mad??

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