How do you deal with Social anxiety ??

Okay so my husband is a social butterfly, and I am not. But today he dropped what I consider a bomb, and he dropped it while we were talking our new landlord.

A little backstory, when I was in 9th grade (2011) and before that I was a social butterfly. I could spark conversations with anyone and everyone and I was very popular. Fast forward to tenth grade(2012) my grandfather passed away and it flipped my world completely. I fell into a deep depression, and became completely reserved and stopped talking since I felt “what’s the point?” I was mute for about a year with the exception of my best friend and gradually I started talking again. But I developed severe social anxiety. I get extremely nervous at the thought of talking to people or asking a question and looking dumb.

Anyways, the bomb he dropped was that one of his friends is having a party for his daughter and that were invited. So my husband invited our landlord as well and I want to cry at the idea of having to socialize with his friends wife and our landlord and god knows who else. Especially since a few months ago we went to a party with them and after a couple of hours I became extremely agitated and uncomfortable for that reason that I hate socializing and I wanted to leave. My husband got mad and said I embarrassed him in front of everyone so of course I never wanted to see them again. So now I’m horrified and I don’t want to go.

How do I help my social anxiety???