Disconnect from siblings

Kinyaa’aanii

This is probably going to be long , so my older sister she’s been in our lives roughly 6 years now but me and her clash all the time. She’s always trying to out do me or be the bigger sister which she is but I’ve always taken that roll before we got to know her. So everything I say she always has something to say against it. Or twist my words or make it seem like I’m being rude. But I’m Pretty sure she doesn’t like me after the scenario that happened between my younger sister and I. So last summer my sister and I and two guys went bowling and she got totally wasted, they took us home and I kept telling her we are home let’s go and even took her out of the car and onto our porch. I went inside to tell my mom but my sister ended leaving with the guys. She said she was 18 an adult and could do what she wants when I messaged her to come back. So one of the guys was my friend and they ended up going to a hotel and they did it but the next day she was saying I got her raped because I wasn’t there for her. So after that my older sister has been even more on my case and believed her and didn’t care what I had to say or even hear my side of the story. But anytime I get say anything I’m rude but when my brother or little sister lash out everyone makes an excuse for them on why they are acting that way but no when it comes to me it’s because I have attitude problems and my mom is always like u need to quit it and all this stuff. And my older sisters husband I don’t like he always acts like he’s better than us and is rude all the time to us and even to my mom. He always has snide remarks. But nobody ever tells him anything. But lately my little sister has been saying that my baby is going to come out ugly because I’m married to a white guy and she will say it low key so nobody says anything, we are close but lately she’s been saying things like that so it doesn’t make me want to hangout with her. There’s more to my little sister like her anger issues and her calling the cops on us and everyone just puts it under the rug or her being rude to my mom all the time. She’s 19 but nope everyone’s like she’s 19 she’s going to act like that. But its literally getting to me. It’s been like this for years but when it comes to me I have to be nice and proper all the time if I can never have a bad day. I’m just getting sick of it. Like I’m done being close to them I want to distance myself for awhile. But I don’t know how to tell them to leave me alone, im about to have a baby so I don’t want all this negative energy. Or them always on my case because of everything I say.

The thing is I still live with my mom til july, and my little sister lives here also. But I also don’t want to engage with her but it’ll be hard but I also don’t want them saying that I changed because I’m married. And making my husband a bad guy just because I’m ignoring them. They will most likely put him down if I just straight up stop talking to them