Would you forgive your husband if he cheated

A month ago I discovered that my husband of 5 years and father of my two children was having an affair. .. two weeks before our wedding anniversary. Three days prior to discovering this I had a miscarriage and we’d decided to passively try again by not using protection but not stressing over fertility windows. I learned that he had not only told lies about me to the woman but also to his friends and family to justify his want of an affair. He’d even said that he didn’t love me anymore and was only staying for the kids. He blamed me and said that if I hadn’t been so “ perfect” he never would have needed to cheat. This surprised me because I’d always thought that we were happy. That we had the kind of strength in a relationship that people aspired to have... I immediately filed for a divorce and custody. He’s told me that this whole situation has helped him to realize that he loves and wants his family and that he was making himself unhappy for no true reason. He’s agreed to therapy and marriage counseling. But we have started fighting... he still says that he feels as though I’m too perfect and can do no wrong. I’m worried that since it was his reason for cheating to begin with if that feeling persists he will just do it again. Our first court appearance is on the 30th... I feel like I tried for a month but I can’t get over the depth of the betrayal. Have you ever been in this situation? Were you able to forgive and forget? If not, would you be able to ?