Breaking ties with my dad and his wife 💔💔

So, my stepmom comes across as a lovely, caring woman however she is somebody that knows everything. She is an expert in every field and genuinely can never be wrong. Ten years I have just accepted this- of course I have, I love my dad and just want him to be happy but she took things too far about 3 weeks ago over my baby shower...

My two sisters decided to organise my baby shower, just a few ladies in the garden of my childhood home, of course my stepmom was made aware by the two of them and was told what was happening and was this ok etc etc.

Fast forward a few weeks (27 weeks pregnant) and I get asked what is happening with the food, I explain to her I’m not entirely sure and she should ask my two sisters to which I get told I should know and I should tell her... I left it there and told her I’d get my sisters to ring her.

The next week, went to my dads and had a bbq, 28 weeks pregnant, 30 degrees and everyone else drinking all day... eventually at around 9pm I get asked about the baby shower, again I explain I’m not sure about food but that my elder sister (who was present) knows what is happening... to try and cut this short things got completely out of hand, several times she physically pushed me, blocked my path to leave the house to get away from the argument, she told me both my sisters were useless and couldn’t organise anything etc etc.

The next day, I get a text from her telling me this is all my fault and I’m not welcome back in the house to see her or my dad....

My dad has recently been in contact asking me to say sorry even though it wasn’t my fault because we all know that my stepmom won’t because as stated previously she is never in the wrong. After a long hard think, I’ve decided not to do this, this has happened so many times in the past and I’m not prepared to have this toxic woman in my life right now.

She has constantly told me what I do wrong as a wife, as a woman and I’m sure as a mother will happen when my little angel is born.

In my opinion, she has got what she has wanted and has my dad to herself. I have invited my dad round a few times to discuss this but he refuses to come without her, which I would respect if I wasn’t carrying his flesh and blood and going to give birth soon.

I guess I just want to be told that everything is going to be OK, I’m 32 weeks pregnant and should be enjoying my pregnancy with my family! I know telling this story it seems like I should just say sorry, but so many times things like this have happened, and I just cannot accept it this time. We are basically at a stalemate!

Couldn’t have made it clearer to my dad: also he was there watching the entire thing unfold anyway!