Good idea or no? Answering questions.

So a few months ago my boyfriends friends gf let’s just call her Sue and her bf can be Bob. My bf Sue and Bob all worked together out of state; my bf fired them and his friend Tom.

Sue messaged me telling me about how my bf had been paying for hookers, going on dates, hanging out with all these random girls he’s picked up and using dating apps. Sue sent me this about mid April. I got another one last week about him being with a specific girl and a screenshot of this girls Instagram. After Sue Bob and Tom got fired they went to a different state.

My bf and Tom have been friends for years like he’s been in the picture with my bf linger than I have. Far longer than he has been with Bob and Sue— they started coming around about a year ago. Tom is still friends with Bob and Sue not so much my bf and their work friends. My question is Should I message Tom asking if these things are true? My worry is Sue is only saying these things because her and Bob are young and angry.

I want to know the truth because we do have a child we are being forced by the state to come up with a parenting plan we have agreed on one just basic 50/50 as we live together and have discussed marriage. However if these messages are true I won’t be agreeing to 50/50 and will be moving out.

So I message Tom in hopes he tells me the truth?

Yes he has given me multiple reasons to doubt him— she also told me things I already knew about. I have brought these things up to him he denies them. However the girl she sent me ss of she WAS following him he deleted her after I brought it up. He also had commented and liked a few of her what I would call inappropriate pictures. Her profile is public so I was able to see it.