I needssss to vent

I've been dating this guy since last July and we became official in January. We went away this weekend to celebrate my birthday. That was his idea. Neither one of us have our own apartment so he has always asked me if he could book a hotel for a night/weekend I always refused, because I felt like it was a waste of money and although I'm not bougie, I could imagine him booking a flippen motel... so Valentine's Day rolls around, I told him I was down for the hotel. He flops on that. I nearly ended it right there. Now spring is approaching and I'm talking a lot about my birthday weekend and summer plans. I express how I can't wait to travel to different states and really enjoy summer with him since I finally have a car. He brings up the idea to see TDE in Pennsylvania, because I work evenings and I couldn't make the NYC show. Ofcourse I am down, it's the start of summer, I drive.. this could be so fun; our first road trip together. Y'all, I was sooo let down that weekend.

So it's Saturday morning, I pick him up at the subway in my car and ask him for the final time if he's down to rent a car since just the day before I got a flat and my cars old IDK how it would act during a four hour drive. I wanted to be safe and rent a car and split the cost.. I asked him that morning let alone every week leading up to the date. He told me he could pay me back and we could go half on the expenses.

I rent the car, before hitting the road we stop at the corner store to buy breakfast and lunch... I pay, but I'm thinking nothing weird of it.

SideBar: I'm super into bargains so I also find discounts and deals if we go to the movies, bowling, museums, I buy the tickets because I use Groupon. I'm not cheap. I don't mind spending my money on an experience.

We stop at a rest stop I buy some snacks for us.. no big deal.

We finally arrive in PA and first visit a donut shop and the outlets. He buys our donuts which is less than five bucks. Then we visit the outlets and I start shopping, but he doesn't.

We then get some lunch and finally check into the hotel. We're eating, talking about our plans and fooling around. The night rolls around and we head to the concert. I stop at the gas station and I pay for the gas (no big deal this is my first time filling the car up)

We are on our way home from the concert and I ask if he wants dinner or to stop somewhere for drinks because it was only 11pm and we are both on the live-concert high feeing. He says no ... uh okay I'm starving, but I had leftovers at the hotel so I didn't bother getting anything else.

The next morning comes we wake up at 9am, as i'm getting dressed and asking him about Hershey Park tickets and gas and breakfast.. he finally decides to tell me "he's broke" and has to pay rent when he gets home so he has no money to spend out here!

sidebar: his "rent" is less than 300$/month

& I pay "rent" and bills too

If he would have told me this before I would of planned and spent my money differently. (I didn't need to go shopping at the outlets; I was just trying to pass time by) Also we planned this trip at least two months in advance. He could of easily put $20 away each week. He works full time.

Now here's the thing since I booked the hotel; he said he would buy the concert tickets and the Hershey Park tickets. That would have costed him ( $226)

The hotel cost me $176; plus I put gas in the car which was about 14 dollars to fill the tank and I filled it three times.

So basically the final day I put gas in the tank, bought both Hershey park tickets, bought him breakfast and lunch.

I just really expected him to take charge and not rely on me for everything. I felt like I was his parent. I was so disgusted.

When he told me he had "no money" I was super sincere about it because I guess I didn't want it to be awkward and here we are four hours from home. I also really just wanted to enjoy this weekend.. my birthday weekend. But it annoyed me throughout the day and I really didn't enjoy my final day in PA. I was better off going alone or with family.

I was really looking forward to trying new restaurants out there and we didn't. He had Wendy's everyday.

We were suppose to stop in Philly and we didn't. And on day one I was talking to him mapping everything out and he was down for it all and didn't mention $$$

I most def will be talking to him about it because, I feel as though women need to express what they expect from a relationship early or guys will try to get away with anything. And his lack of preparation, chivalry will not be tolerated anymore.

Basically I just wish he would have told me sooner. We are adults and we know our expenses.