Gay porn on husbands phone....

Little back story ever since I was pregnant especially after I had our daughter our relationship is nonexistent. Sex life is nothing, no love or affection. All I get is maybe a love you when he leaves for work. He’s not even caring. I’m a stay at home mom and I’ve been sick the past couple of days. If I ask him to do anything he says no. If he does say yes with help out with our kid he just sits her in a walker or bouncer. He just sits in the bathroom with his phones or runs off to his friends. It’s not like we don’t have time for sex. Our daughter sleeps all night starting at 7pm!! I’ve been watching his search history and nearly everyday he’s watching porn WHILE IM WITH HIM. And this morning is gay porn.... I’m starting to think I want to leave him.

Edit: while I want to leave I’m scared to. I don’t have a job and I’ve never been away from my child even for a day so I don’t want to do that split time crap. He also says if I leave him and take his child he’ll kill him self. He pretty much just wants me to sit here and take care of his child and shut up. I’m trying so hard and nothing from his end. Idk how to get him to want to fix things. He thinks everything is perfect even after me expressing everything! It’s not like he’s in the dark.

EDIT AGAIN: “have you talked to him” YES fucking YES I tell him almost every day for over a year now