How to nicely tell my MIL no to taking my daughter?

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I’m due with baby number two. My mom is going to take my daughter for the time in the hospital then she will help me at home with both kids for a week. 
My MIL wants to take my daughter home with her, 14 hours away, when my mom leaves. I do not like this idea. That is too far for my liking and my MIL isn’t the best caring grandmother. (I know she raised my husband, but even he doesn’t like the idea) the help might be nice, I however feel we will be just fine. She doesn’t want to stay at our house. 🤷🏻‍♀️ fine by me. 
I’ve tried saying “the girls need to get to know each other” “We will be just fine” I have told her it’s too far. She took offense and freaked out. Everything I say she has an excuse for. 🤬
Am I being crazy for not wanting her to take her? 
 I don’t know what else to say I’m NOT comfortable with her driving 28 hours with my daughter. Or keeping her so long... help

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It’s your daughter you need to set the boundaries. Just simply say “I would rather her stay here.” If she can’t respect that than honestly she doesn’t need to be there to help. In the end those are your kids and she needs to respect your choices.

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Just say, "I'm sorry but the answer is no. I do not feel comfortable with my child being that far away for so long. Now if you want to stay here you are more than welcomed to but my child will not be leaving. Do not tale offense, I do appreciate your offer but my mind is made up"

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Just tell her that you don’t want your daughter so far from you. You don’t even have to give other reasons. That is quite the distance to not be with either parent so she should understand.

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There’s really no other way around this one: but to tell her. Be firm. But kind. No means no.

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Just say no, your baby not hers

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I’d have my husband talk to her. It’s his mom and he should feel more comfortable just being flat out “No. it’s not happening.”

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Just be blunt. "I'm not comfortable you dring her for 28 hours and with her being gone so long. Thanks for the offer, but no thanks."

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Ahhhh she’s calling you ungrateful after you offer to have her stay with you and she tells you she doesn’t want to be in your house?!?  It’s her own darn fault if she’s not seeing her granddaughter! I think you were very nice and very clear and don’t owe her anymore responses.

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Tell her if she doesn't come then she wont see her because you said so and stop messaging her back. If she gives you any more problems id just tell her nevermind and give her her time to reflect. 
My mil doesn't even know my childrens names. She should feel honored to even been given the opportunity.

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You’ve said all you need to say. I’d shoot out one final “no means no” and stop replying to her guilt-tripping nonsense.
If it continues, get your husband to shut his mom down and to tell her that he’s horrified and disappointed that she would disrespect you this way.

How to nicely tell my MIL no to taking my daughter?

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