I need opinions and advice šŖ
This will probably be a bit of a long post but I just need opinionsš
Iām currently 19 weeks pregnant, my ex (the dad) doesnāt even have the decency to reply to my messages anymore and is telling people that I āplayedā him and is now claiming he doesnāt know whether he is the dad, telling people Iāve been fucking him around when Iāve been trying to get him to talk to me, Iāll start from the start though cause Iām starting to believe in my head that Iāve done something wrong because he keeps saying it but I donāt know anymore š«
So I found out I was pregnant early on after I took a test after my period was a couple weeks late and I told him straight away. We never really spoke much about it in depth or what we would do and were just talking like everything was normal, about a week later I started having pains so went to my doctors and was sent to an emergency scan early the next morning. I told my boyfriend at the time and he said heād be there and come with me, so off I go to sleep early to be ready to get up for the appointment, I woke up about 2am to a message from him out at the dancing, still not home and drunk. I message him in the morning for him to tell me heās too hungover to come to my scan and have to wake my friend up to come with me instead.
I send him a pic of the scan and tell him Iām around 7 weeks for him to message me back telling me how he thinks a termination is the only option for us just now, telling me he thinks weād āfuck up a babyā. This goes on for a while till I tell him we need to meet up and talk in person, I break up with him because I realised after everything how much we werenāt meant to be and how immature he truly was (he said he wanted us to be friends) At the time I was agreeing with him and telling him I would go through it because he wanted me to cause Iām 19 and I was scared to do it myself.
He would message me every day for a few weeks asking me if I had booked an abortion yet, asking me if I wanted his MUM to phone abortion clinics for me, just constantly asking and reminding me all the time till I told him to stop mentioning it so much cause it was getting to me.
He didnāt message me again so I took some time for myself to think and decided I couldnāt go through with an abortion and that I wanted this baby, I messaged him and told him I couldnāt go through with it and he read it but never replied.
I found out 2 weeks after we broke up he had a new girlfriend that he was so proud of the fact that I would ānever find outā. I then found out he was spreading lies about me saying I messed him about and fucked him about making himself out to be a victim to all his friends, One of his friends sent me the messages as they didnāt believe him. Heās now started to tell people that he doesnāt know if heās the dad anymore too.
I messaged him and his mum (who is way too involved in his life) and both of them have read but havenāt replied, but Iām the bad person? Iām the person fucking with him?
I donāt know where I stand anymore
Achieve your health goals from period to parenting.