How do you deal with your feelings of extreme independence? They first became clear to me after college, when I decided to search for my first job all by myself. It took me roughly 6 months, but I did find work. Even so, I found that the search took a lot out of me. Do you ever feel lonely, as if you're the only person who is qualified to care for you? Has your independence ever gotten in the way of something you cared about? If you've gotten therapy, then what did you learn from it?