To First Time Mom's in hard situations

When I first learned I was becoming a mother. I was 2 months into my Separation from my now ex-husband, he had wiped my savings and retirement accounts CLEAN, he maxed out all of my credit cards, and paid 0 of our bills for a year, so I was in massive debt.

We dated 6 years, were married less than one. No, I didn't see it coming obviously.

He had a friend he moved into our home to pay him rent so he could continue paying for Xbox live when his uncle fired him from his grandfathers truck shop.

That friend may have saved my life. He stood between me and my husband during a fight that threatened to become physical. My husband leaves the house soon after which is when I discovered (through mail) of the notices about foreclosure, and having no money in any of my bank accounts.

That friend who protected me two months later became the father of my first child.

My son's father worked very very part-time. He had no savings, he only worked enough to pay rent and buy food for himself.

We were friends, but we were no where near best friends or in love.

It was a HARD LIFE. I went from having amazing credit pre-first husband to having a credit score in the 300s. I sold my home, and had a extremely hard time finding a place to rent because I had garbage credit and my son's father had no credit. Sounds like we were pregnant and homeless for a while, it's because we were. My parent ended up helping us get an apartment we could afford.

3 years later,

We eloped and found out two and a half weeks later that we are pregnant again and this time, he has THE full-time job he has been dreaming of, I have gotten three offers for employment that alone are within 20k of my goal income.

WE ARE COMPLETELY OUT OF DEBT. Credit in the lowmid-700s but omg we are almost there.

Don't let your current situation confuse you into thinking that it reflects anything about your destination. YOU CAN.