My wife is scared of intercourse, reason being some painful infection in childhood and exposure to stories of rape and pain during intercourse. We area married for more than 4 years now and till date we have not achieved penetration. Consulted gynecologists as well, but they said try doing using fingers first. She is afraid of that even. I am so much frustrated that I no longer have desire to have intercourse with her. I want to help her in all the way I can but to no avail. And we desperately need a baby now. PLEASE PLEASE ANY HELP OR RECOMMENDATION WOULD BE HIGHLY APPRECIATED.