I feel so hurt right now

Something my pastor's wife said about me got back to me today and I feel kind of betrayed. I had a miscarriage just after Thanksgiving, and hubby and I are still struggling with the loss. I asked to switch weekends in kids ministry with someone so I can sit with hubby for Father's day, because I know that's going to be a hard weekend. Well the pastor's wife told my friend she can't figure out why I'm still hung up on the baby we lost. She had a miscarriage and was over it in a month. I'm so hurt because this lady is supposed to be my friend too. I have confided in her how devastated we have been about losing the baby, and how heartbreaking infertility has been. I guess I'm just supposed to shrug it all off and put on a happy face? I can't even go talk to her about it because it will put my friend in a weird situation.