Hope, love and support

A few months ago without realizing it I was in a abusive relationship, verbal, sexual, emotional, all but physical. He knew I was also asexual (look it up if you don’t know what it means, I am not a plant it’s part of the LGBT+ community), but still tried to change that part of me because he thought I was just shy about my body.

He tried to change everything about me, what I did, what I wore, who I was hanging out with (if it was anyone but him he’d be pissed), what I liked, who I should be. Everything. And tried to get me to quit dance to do jazz band with him. He tried to get into my pants by threatening to kill him self.

I told him it wasn’t okay and something needed to change and he constantly said “it won’t happen again, I promise.” But he never did change he just kept getting angrier and thought that I was trying to change him because I didn’t love him. I just didn’t like what he was doing.

It got too much, I put us on a break and tried to build friendships and he still tried to control me and take advantage of my body and when I told him he never changed when he promised he did because he made me upset and uncomfortable with the things he did. I wasn’t asking him to change his personality just his actions and think about his words before he say them but he never did. Then he legit told me “well you kept being nice and kept letting me do it so I took advantage of it, but it won’t happen again” i was so sick and tired of these lies and left him in the dust.

7 months later I have all my friends back and every time he tries to be my friend I have the courage to stand up and say no. He hit my last straw and I wasn’t having it. After we broke up I felt lost and broken and lonely but after 7 months I finally see what a dick he was. Who tries to change someone’s identity because of what THEY want from that person???? For THEIR needs and wants???

After all these months I’m the strongest I have ever been and so so so much happier. Standing up is worth it, I’m healthier, happier, I’m doing better in my activities and classes, I’m physically stronger, I have more motivation, and finally can see what I want and know what I want is more important that what he or anyone else wants. Don’t let anyone take you down, it’ll all be better in the end.