kind of out

I have only partially come out. I am a mature adult just haven't dated alot. I am not attracted to most ppl and am very introverted. I find women more attractive but I have more sexual experience with men because they are the ones that aggressively pursue me.

I don't know if I am gay enough to call myself queer and so I am afraid ppI will think I'm a phony if I come out evenas bi or pan. My introversion and submissiveness mutes my sexuality and makes me appear way more heterosexual. I'm feeling frustrated and think it may be better to not claim to be part of queer community too much. Any advice?