Should I go to ER?

I’ve been having constant pain for about 4 days now. The pain is in my lower right abdomen, goes to my back, and to my hip. It’s getting worse and worse and nothing helps. I’ve tried Tylenol, heating pads, and massage to the area. I hate going to the ER because they always down play my pain and make me feel dumb. Ex: I went a few years ago and found out I had kidney stones and they down played it. I ended up in kidney failure because they kept sending me home. A year later they also down played my ovarian cysts and I ended up needing surgery. Ever since then I’ve hated going to the emergency room. Every time I tell my midwife about something she just says it’s “normal” in pregnancy. The pain is getting really bad. I just don’t want to go and waste my time and them tell me there’s nothing they can do for me. Suggestions??

P.S - it’s not RLP. I’ve looked into it. (At least I don’t think it is)