Question ....

Ok I know this is going to sound stupid but here it goes.... a friend of ours was pregnant over a year ago but found out the baby stopped growing. At 6 weeks and have not been able to get pregnant again since and are now about to try ivf... well when she was pregnant she had her crib furniture set picked out.. well my husband and I are looking at cribs and I am 18w4d with a little boy after trying for 3 1/2 years.. well the furniture we both really like turns out to be the same set... would it be mean or crappy of us to get the set she wants?? I know this seems stupid but u would have to know her to understand why i think this would be a big deal to her.. so what do I do?