My mother is driving me CRAZY!

I had my daughter almost 4 months ago. When I was pregnant my bf and I moved in to my mothers house to help her with her mortgage and to provide a better and clean environment for my daughter. We’ve just saved enough to move out on our own after months of me pressuring my bf to start making changes. From the point my daughter came home my mother has been trying to make choices regarding her health (for example her vaccinations & giving her acid reflux medication) and other things such as how to bathe her ect... at first it was nice getting her advice and help but it’s at the point where she’s overbearing. The other day she told my daughter “I know you think I’m your mommy” while I was standing right next to her. Then today she just sent me this text. Am I wrong for being upset? We’ve had arguments over and over again about this. Our house isn’t going to be done for another two months and I don’t think I can make it. She doesn’t allow me to care for my child my way. I don’t want this to ruin the relationship I have with my mom but I can’t take it anymore.

Update: just a little back story. I had terrible contractions for 4 days before my water broken and ended up being green. I didn’t eat nor sleep the 4 days prior to having her. They wouldn’t induce me because I had 3 days until I was 41 weeks. I went to the hospital 4 times in those 4 days and got sent home every time. Once I got the epidural I was fine. I had her for twenty minutes after I started pushing the next day (two set of twins were born the same night I went into labor so I got pushed to the side). My mom came to see her the next day. I ended up having complications with my epidural which led me to have 3 bags of fluids pushed into my body within a few hours to attempt to close the hole. I refused to have another needle stabbed into my back. The fluids gave me some relief but not even to be able to care for my child. 3 days after we came home my bf went back to work so I didn’t have much help from him. My mom helped me out tremendously and I wouldn’t have done it without her. I’ve been healed mentally and physically for over 3 months now and I just don’t need the help that I did when I was in extreme pain all the time. I wish she’d back off kindly & let me take care of my daughter the way I want too.

Update 2: OUR MOVE IN DATE GOT PUSHED UP TO AUGUST 1st! Super excited and hopefully my mom relaxes once we move out. She still keeps asking if I’m going to bring her to sleepover and ect.. I really hope she doesn’t show up everyday out of the blue. I think her coming to visit once a week would be fair. I’m still undecided about letting her take the baby overnight. Do you guys think it’s okay for her to take my two month old overnight? I’m scared she will end up giving her water because “she’s thirsty” or something. I’m really nervous about the whole situation. Thank you ladies for all the advice! Now the packing begins 🤦‍♀️

Update 3: Yesterday she asked me if the baby could live with her & I could baby sit her during the day. She was dead serious about it too. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I calmly told her over my dead body. My blood was boiling. I really thought things would be different.