I'm starting to feel used

My boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for 3 years because he was in the military.

About 5 months ago, he finally got out and moved back home.

I've noticed that he's just become horrible about texting me.

At first, I didn't mind so much because he's been working a construction job and so he tends to be pretty tired when he gets back home and just ends up falling asleep for the majority of the evening.

But I've noticed now that half the time he's not sleeping, he's just out with his friends. He doesn't lie to me about where he is, he just doesn't tell me anything. We share our location with each other so I can tell when he's at home probably just passed out or when he's out doing something.

Idk, I'm just bothered by the fact that he like never texts me...And I'm more bothered by the fact that when he DOES call me or text me, he's all, I miss you so much, I'm always thinking about you blah blah but how are you gonna miss me that much and always have me on your mind yet it never occurs to you to hit me a text when you're home from work or to let me know you'll be out with friends? That just doesn't make sense to me.

Also, he has to wake up at like 5am Monday through Saturday for work so he's understandably pretty tired. We might see each other once or twice on weekdays and he'll usually head back home around 10 or 11pm because he says he wants to get enough rest. Okay, that's totally fine. I get it.

But if he's out with friends, he'll be out with them till 1 or 2am on weekdays. Or if we have sex, he'll go home at 1 or 2am as well. So, he has no problem staying up with me if sex is involved but if I just want to cuddle or hang out, he's "tired" and "should be getting to bed early" 😒

When he was in the military, he was so much more attentive and talked to me all the time. Now, I kind of feel like an afterthought sometimes.

It's like, when he was in the military and he had nothing better to do and no other friends, then yeah I was his #1 because I kept him entertained or whatever but apparently now I'm not that necessary unless he's trying to have sex.

Ugh Idk...am I being unreasonable? Am I just being clingy? I feel like I put SO much into this relationship and it hurts to think that this whole time he was just into the attention I gave him... 😞

I want to talk to him about it but only if I know my feelings are actually valid and not stupid. I don't want to start drama with him where it's not necessary