Sex has been a big problem for me as well. As for the psychological part of vaginismus, (at least for what U have heard so far), I have been uncomfortable with having sex before. But over time I am okay with it and am currently withy long-time boyfriend, he is extremely patient and understanding about everything (thank god), and it helps a lot. But I hate having to worry that I may never be able to really have sex. because he hasn’t been able to get in very far. We’ve tried multiple times. It may be my stress or anxiety in the back of my mind. But I am very comfortable with him, and I don’t know how that works with the vaginismus.

P.S. I have basically self diagnosed myself with vaginismus. I joined this group so I would feel less alone.. I have literally never met anyone else in my situation. In my case, the smallest size tampons are okay SOMETIMES, anything larger hurts like hell and I’ve tried since the seventh grade. I just gave up on them and not to mention I HATE that I have to sue pads. people have told me I am gross for only using them and it sucks. In my case, part 2, fingers have not really hurt so far. But the thing is, one finger feels like enough... also, I just don’t know if the sex needs more foreplay? If my vagina needs “help” opening up?

Do I actually/ most likely have vaginismus? It’s been like this forever. Any other young women here that have experienced this for a long time like me?