So my boyfriend of 2 years, or would’ve been 2 years in October, broke up with me because I went through his phone while he was sleeping.

Initially, I didn’t think to check if he was talking to another girl or anything. I was actually checking his browser history to see how often he watches porn. Since we got together, he’s struggled with intimacy and having sex with me. He prefers his hand because he’s a porn/masturbation addict. He told me when we first got together that I was too loose for him, and that’s why he couldn’t finish. I was automatically hurt and offended.

Fast forward, I still feel insecure about his porn addiction and he didn’t touch me for a week, we lived with his mom as well and she was on vacation, and still never touched me. He tells me he hasn’t taken care of himself the whole week he hasn’t touched me. And this is during a “heart-to-heart” talk we’re having before I got to my second job. Come that night, I still don’t feel he told me the truth.

Now I know most should go to their man and ask them to their face to see their phone, but he’s very confrontational and gets angry easy and I just wanted to check without starting an issue or fight. I check and notice he’s been on porn almost every single day but we haven’t been intimate the whole week (7days).

So I’m already angry at that, and then I go check his messages for SOME REASON. I cannot say exactly what possessed me to do that because I was there for the browser. Maybe I did it because I was already mad about his porn usage.

I go into his messages and lo and behold! What do i see? An unsaved number with a message that last says “I want to show you my tits and pussy, and you can watch my face too” I open it immediately and see he’s the one who sent the first message saying “hey”.

She texts asking who it is and he says it’s Jordan. She asks him to get the WhatsApp but he says he just has his phone. That’s when she starts calling him babe. Telling him “morning” and sending her messages saying she’s horny and blah blah blah... he never responded to the dirty messages but wtf?!?

I immediately wake him up and ask him what these messages are doing on his phone and he tells me the messages are from a long time ago, but the dates are for June 25-27. I’m finding these messages on July 8th.... he also has the nerve to say she messaged him first off Facebook after he UNblocked her. She was a girl we blocked previously, but she had a new number now or something, who would text Jordan messages like that when we first got together. And he never tried to go out of his way to block her. I found them accidentally the first time playing on his phone. We blocked her and that was that.

So he went behind my back to unblock and message her, his reason being he didn’t want me controlling who he talked to like his exes.....🖕🏻🖕🏻🤦🏻‍♀️ I never told him not to talk to friends or family or something. Just some random who sent inappropriate messages. I’m my mind, it’s logical to block people like that out of respect for my partner, so I expect the same back.

So comes Sunday and he’s all pissed and when I get back from my second job, he’s breaking up with me and calling me disgusting and lying about how he would’ve blocked her if I’d just asked to see his phone to his face and found those messages..... yeah right. Now all he’s done is send some lousy apologies (after moving my shit out) and saying he still has Love for me. I’m beyond hurt and upset. Is this cheating? He wasn’t physical and he never responded, but he went behind my back to unblock her but broke up with me over trust because I went through his phone while he slept.

I’m at a loss right now. I feel betrayed and hurt and lonely. I never cheated, with all our intimacy problems, most girls would’ve left or cheated. I never did but he unblocks a girl whom he knows sends messages like that....