Here’s the situation.

My husband is upset right now because his daughter’s mother’s boyfriend is essentially talking crap about him to his daughter. I totally understand his anger. Rewind to last night...

He mentioned he wanted to go to the hot springs. It’s summer and it’s way too hot for the hot springs in my opinion but if that’s what he wants to do then I’ll go to make him happy.

So.. forward to this morning.

He’s upset about Mike(his ex wife’s boyfriend) talking all this crap. Well as I empathized with him on the situation I asked if he wanted to still go to the hot springs (thinking it would calm him down). He got aggressive telling me how that was a dumb question in this situation and that I am only thinking about myself after I spoke up that I didn’t like the way he was talking to me...

he just took his anger on someone else onto me calling me stupid for asking that kind of question and being so selfish.

Now.. am I wrong to be upset?

Does anyone have any advice in how I should handle this?

Later this evening I have to go see a play at school for an essay (my school is an hour away) last time he went with me he told me how I wasted his evening for a bad play.. now I don’t want him to go because of the last time.. and with his attitude today...but I don’t know how to explain to him that I don’t want to waste his evening. He has a tendency to ruin weekends and blames it on me. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️