Hey guys, I’m feeling really down and overly stressed right now. I’m feeling like I need to complain/vent a little.

My husband and I bought a home early last year. It’s a new construction, as that’s what I’ve always wanted for my first home, so we obviously couldn’t move in right away. We were told it would take about 6 months until we could move in, and it shouldn’t take any longer. Well, here we are, over an entire year later and we still can’t move in.

There were a lot of different things that held the process back, but now it’s just waiting for the electric company to put a pole in our yard so we can turn on electricity. We can’t turn on the water until this happens because we have sewer and septic. It looks like it’s going to take another month, but every time we think it’ll only take a certain amount of time left, it always takes so much longer.

In December, we had to stop renting due to the situation with our contractors. They wouldn’t communicate with us to let us know in time that it wouldn’t be ready. So, we couldn’t stay after December 31st. Plus, the condo we were living at sucked. There were random flies all the time we couldn’t get rid of (we never left old or rotten food out, no trash, no dirty dishes, we did treatment around and in the toilets, bathtub, and sinks in case that’s where they were coming from). And they raised the rent to an ungodly price for a 700 sq ft place. Anyway, it wouldn’t have been ideal to stay there even if we could.

So ever since the last week of December, we have been staying with my parents. We were only able to move our bed in, a dresser, things for our cat, some clothes, and health items. We were okay with this because we were told it would only be a month longer, two at most. The rest of our stuff is in storage. It’s really hard to live with other people, since we were on our own for a while, and they never appreciate the things we do around the house for them. I feel like our overall relationship with my parents is good, but I do argue a lot with my mom. It’s not usually an unstable kind of arguing, just often and annoying. It just brings unnecessary negativity in my life, but there’s nothing I can really do. I also have a 10 year old brother that gets on our nerve. He’s just very rude and my parents don’t really parent him well enough.

I also struggle with obsessive and compulsive symptoms/behaviors in terms of material objects we own. The fact that some of our furniture and household items are here, and some are in storage just drives me crazy. I really feel like it’s hard to keep going everyday with furniture in more than one place- especially it not being exactly where I want it to be (which would be somewhere in our new house). We also went and bought furniture a few months ago (because we were told we would be moving in in 4 weeks at the time) so we have just been postponing the delivery date. I’m literally going crazy knowing I paid for stuff that I don’t have yet and I don’t know when I’ll have it. (I’m not uptight about most things, I just am one of those people that has to have all my stuff in it’s place or else I feel like something is missing.)

To add on to the stress, I’ve been going to school and work as normal. My husband also works. It was really hard until summer started because I was going to school for 12 hours a day, 2 times a week, and going to work 10 hours a day, 3 days a week. I also had to volunteer on the weekends for about 8 hours each day. I had homework assignments, essays, group projects. It feels like it was harder to get through because I was worried about all the above things. School is starting again in a month, and I’m just not ready to start again until we’re back on our own (but obviously there’s nothing I can really do about it). My husband and I are also trying to conceive. We’ve been trying for almost a year now. So nothing about this situation helps.

I definitely prepared for this to be a very short-lived situation but it’s been 7 months now and counting. I know a lot of the above may seem insignificant and stupid, but I just don’t know how to feel better about this. We’re obviously getting by each day and surviving, but on the inside I’m really feeling uneasy and like I can’t handle it much longer.

I’ve been looking at places to rent nearby, but most are year long leases, so we’ll see later this week if anyone will shorten the lease terms to only a month or two.

I could use ANY advice and kind words/motivation to keep me going until my house is move-in ready! Do you guys think it’s even a good idea to try and rent a house for such a short period of time? I’m mostly wanting to to get privacy with my husband and so that way I can just have all my furniture in one house, and to have my new things finally delivered. I’ve never heard of anyone being put in this situation before, so if you have dealt with something similar I’d love to hear about it. It’s very unprofessional because most of it was the house dealers fault and I’ve thought about getting a lawyer but we don’t really have money for that. Plus, we never signed any papers that had a completion date listed, so I don’t think there’s anything we can do about it.

If you guys want any updates, I’ll need someone to post in the comments how because I just can’t figure out how for the life of me. Sorry it’s such a long post, btw! If you made it this far, thank you for reading!