I moved out of state and met my boyfriend here, we ended up having a baby and he became a nightmare.

He started to fight me a week after I had my baby, he has body slammed me, choked me, slapped me, spit on me and slammed my head into walls out of rage coming from arguments he provoked. The first time he ever put his hands on me I called the police and made a report. I immediately got backlash from his family saying “why would you call the police when he left afterwards?” “Why would you give the police his name knowing he’s on probation in 3 cities” just making me feel like I did something wrong. So I bonded him out, feeling guilty and things were ok for a minute. Then it started happening again and again and got worse each time.

His mom has came to save me from him about 6 times and never wanted me to go to police she would just tell me to stay away from him and not let him come back to the apt. I would have to run out of my house with no shoes, keys, phone or my kid. This last incident, I didn’t listen and let him come back over because he convinced me he was sorry and swore to god he would never touch me again. He became upset when I refused sex so he sat on top of me slapped me, pulled my hair, twisted my neck and choked me until I passed out. I stopped breathing so my brain started to dream and I woke up shaking and hyperventilating. I made a 2nd police report! Now his family is upset with me and blaming me because I let him come back over. They are mad that this incident violated all of his probations and will be doing years in jail “because of me.” Regardless to me letting him over that’s not a reason for him to assault me. They know he is wrong but keep making excuses as for why I shouldn’t have gone to the police. Even after this last incident, he changed my locks, called me over 200 times and threatened to slash my tires. I know they don’t want their family in jail, but if I was their daughter, they wouldn’t be advising me to protect a man who continues to abuse me.

I’ve never been in a situation like this, I’m only 23 with a 5 month old so I really wanted things to work which is why I kept giving him chances. He got arrested today and his family is mad at me! What can I say to make them understand that I am not wrong and he needed to go?