my boyfriend is an alcoholic who refuses to go to AA/NA meetings. if i bring it up to him, he tells me im selfish for ‘forcing him’. he says he’ll go to meetings when he’s ready. im heartbroken, he’s relapsed about 6 times since we started dating (almost 5 months now). he does & says very hurtful (emotional/verbal abuse) things when hes under the influence. my mom has been sober for 13 years (im 21) so im well aware of how the program works and what good can come out of it. i have a soft spot for my boyfriend because i understand it, but him & i arent on the same page about it and i dont know what to do anymore. ive even started going to al anon meetings and i literally bawl my eyes out every time i go. i feel so stuck. at this point, hes been sober for about 2ish weeks now but its only time till it happens again. can anyone give me advice or share their experiences with me? id appreciate the support and advice. ❤️

UPDATE:

he’s on house arrest (has been since late April) so either me or his mom drive him to and from work. i was supposed to pick him up from work tonight around 2:15 am (hes a server) and he just stopped responding & then stopped sharing his location with me.

also, realize how one of his last texts was “no more fuck ups, i promise” LOL okay. empty ass promises. after he stopped sharing his location, i called him. no answer. so i stopped sharing mine. guess what i did? went to his house and packed all of my shit. its 4am now but im back home at my moms house with all of my shit. i’m seriously hoping that he stays out past his ‘curfew’ for his house arrest ankle monitor and that the cops go and track him down to pick him up. he’ll probably face jail time but i dont care at this point.

thank you everyone for your comments. if it werent for you guys i probably wouldnt have the courage to have gone and packed all of my stuff.