Invite my mom or no?

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First time, soon to be mama here! Just seeking some advice or any experiences other mamas may have had with this situation!
My mom and I have a pretty close bond and have only grown closer sense my husband and I found out we were expecting ! She lives about 3 hours away from us, but I know when our sweet baby girl is born in November she will definitely make the drive up to see her in the hospital when she is born! 
My husbands family all live withing 15 min of us and I KNOW they will be over at least every other day visiting and checking up on us.
I want my mom to feel 100% included as this is the first grandbaby on her side! And I’m just wondering if I am going to feel more comfortable with my mom being with me as well? To answer any questions or suggestions I may have? As opposed to my in laws? 
My question is ... do I invite her to stay with us once we bring her home ? Did anyone find having there mom staying with them for a few days helpful or is it unnecessary? Did it take away from the bonding experience between you, baby and your partner ? Or did things work out just fine with your mom there to help out ? Please share your experiences, would love to know !! 🤗🤗🤗

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My mom actually lived across the street from where I delivered. I stayed with her for a few weeks just to have the extra help with my first

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I also had a very close bond with my mom, and she promised to stay with me for 3 weeks once my daughter was born. She was there during the delivery, but has only seen her granddaughter 6 times total, including birth. After she was born, my mom just continuously told me that I didn't need help and that I should be able to handle it on my own, despite me calling her in tears, begging for help when I was struggling with post partum anxiety. The moral of my sob story is to take any and all help offered, but also worry more about what you and baby need versus making your mom comfortable. You'll need the help and won't be able to focus on anything other than you and that baby in the moment. Good luck!

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My mom will be staying with my hubby & I for a week when our little girl is born in November. His mom will also probably stay with us. Having my mom there is crucial for me. She was a single mom all my life so her & I have an amazingly strong bond. She's my best friend & my hubby is totally cool with her staying with us & helping out. She'll also be in the delivery room, as will his mom.

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I was in literally the exact same position. I wanted my mom there but I didn’t want her to interfere with my husband and I bonding with the baby. She stayed the first week the baby was alive and I do not regret it one bit. It was nice having someone there to cook and clean while my husband and I took care of the baby. As long as your mom will be helpful in other ways, I think you should let her stay!

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So this is a little different but similar. My sister in law had a baby and my mom (her mother in law) went down (11 hour drive) to stay with them for a week (maybe a week or two after baby was born) to help and my sister in law was so thankful and loved the help. my mom is going to do the same thing this time around to help out.

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Thank you all for sharing your stories! Luckily we still have 3 months before we have to make any decisions ! Truly appreciate you sharing your experiences, makes me really think about what is going to be right/comfortable for myself, hubby and baby ! Thank you thank you! 💕

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